It doesn't bear thinking about really. Of course, you know had the testing process come up negative throughout and Downs (or something else) sneaked through, you would have still loved that child with all your heart despite decisions you might have made had you of known early on what to expect. It's thoughts like that that make the decision hard to reconcile.

There's no easy out with these situations, and of course you never know what's around the corner (as Dayna's poor parents had to endure). Everyone probably has stories like these (I have a cousin that died at 16 of an inoperable brain tumour that she'd lived with since pre-puberty), and maybe it's kind of a morbid solace you can take in that you're not the only one who's had to make these decisions, and other people know what you've gone through. I mean, the person we saw at Broomfield Hospital is essentially the 'bad news' midwife. That's her job...her full time job. That tells you something. It really is a miracle when they pop out healthy!

Thanks.

 :'-( 
Still big manly hugs, seriously.. 

I sense the love for the child in any case.

((((Jeez & Ms. Jeez)))) Emotionally harrowing decision to have to make.  I'd have made same decision as long as my partner was of the same opinion.

Sorry you had such a hard decision to make.

OK, as you alluded to, I'm someone who might not have made the same decision, but I'm already in at the deep end, so have a different perspective, anyhow. Though, truth be known, if I got knocked up, now, I'd be in a right old panic and seriously doubting if we could introduce anyone else to our family without Consequences,so there would be a similar decision to make for different reasons. It's a case of doing what's best for the family you have.