Right, but who said you had to give the 20%, your lawyer or hers? Reason I ask is because I was told something in a case I was involved in but the truth was on the other side, much more to my benefit. I pushed for answers, researched more and found that while I could have agreed in the issue, I also could negotiate for something better.
I am guessing you have that ability is well. Perhaps the reason for the 20% has something to do with what happened prior to the negative equity situation that remains applicable after, such as your ex put money toward the purchase of the house? What ever happened to the aces? I suppose you didn't want to have to use them.
For me, that would be a sticky situation were I to get divorced; we don't have "his money and her money", we have our money. I know some other couples who have totally separate finances, one pays utilities and one pays the mortgage, one pays the car loan the other pays the mobile bill. Too confusing to my way of thinking. Not saying this is your situation.
Maybe I am just old fashioned. (car)
From: graphitone 5 Sep 2014 17:13
To: 99% of gargoyles look like (MR_BASTARD)
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The difference being that your lawyers are all just a bunch of money-grabbing crooks, while Sottish lawyers are fine, upstanding members of honest society.
20% equates to around 5 grand, that's the minimum it would cost in legal fees to pursue it through the courts. It'd probably cost me more because Scottish lawyers are just the same as every other lawyer, despite what truffle says.
Also going legal would delay me getting my dirty mitts on my share of the cash. As I haven't worked since the start of July and am still owed money from my previous employer I really can't afford to wait for court dates and shit.
From: 99% of gargoyles look like (MR_BASTARD) 5 Sep 2014 19:43
Okay, your decision is being made in a pragmatic sense. Can't much argue with that. Still, why does she the think she is entitled to anything? Why can't she just walk away and leave you to it, knowing she contributed nothing?
You're assuming he's dealing with a reasonable person.
She may be a money grabber who knows the situation well enough to think she can get some free money out of it.
As Kos says, the amount he mentioned is the sweet spot of being what it would cost to sort it legally. It's the minimum amount of money he'd lose going down a legal route.
They are. Money makes people do weird things, such a screwing brothers and sisters out of their share of mum and dad's estate or demanding money where none was due for one reason or another. Happens all the time.
Makes one wonder why... never mind. It is a shame she isn't afraid of it. Will this make you say bad on her?