I think you need to retain a lawyer and get it sorted out. Negative equity when she left and she never paid anything after? Sound to me like a bit of you'll get nothing and like it is in store for her.

Trouble it lawyers is money. Man I hate legal shit.

Do you have any solicitor or lawyer friends to at least point you in the right direction?

Very tough neighbourhood.

That was an accident. Who knew a nine year old couldn't handle an uzi?

The question is, what does she think she is entitled to? If nothing, you have no worries - for the moment. Not sure of the legalities there but In Canada, unless you have a legal agreement, she could change her mind - and it could cost you.  

If she thinks she is entitled to more than you agree to, then a lawyer really is the only solution I'm afraid.

 

You know, if people weren't so shitty to each other we wouldn't need lawyers.

I feel your pain. I will probably have to soon take a guy to court who owes me a lot of money.

Plenty in employment law, not so much in family law :-(

I still have a couple of aces up my sleeve but I'd be a complete bastard if I used them. Having a sit down on Wednesday to see if we can sort something out.

Roll up your sleeves and play the aces - unless she prior agrees to be excluded from any and all proceeds from the sale of the flat due to not contributing for the time frame you mentioned. Get her to sign this agreement and have someone witness it. You can probably find something that fits somewhere on the 'net and make sure to include that the property was in negative equity when you split, that you paid to get out of that negative situation and have paid all monthly obligations since. Get her to sign that she did not contribute any monies from the time you split to present and that she agrees she is not now nor will ever be in the future entitled to any proceeds from your former union, in [real] property, possesions, finances or investments. Make sure it would be legally binding.

I am not a lawyer but I did litigate successfully a labor issue with helpful advice from a friend. I had no other representative with me but did well. The only difference between you and a lawyer is knowledge of the law. If you don't know it and are unwilling or unable to research yourself, get a lawyer. It is a vast undertaking but can be done.

Take it from someone who has been more than fair with another: they don't appreciate it and will turn on you in a heartbeat if they think they can profit. Do not convince yourself that "they will never do that", because they almost always do. I hate legal shit.

Hey, I told you I was good for it!

Talk is cheap!

Would you be willing to accept donut in exchange?

I'll gladly pay you Tuesday for a hamburger today.

Soory, kos. We are hijacking your thread. Come to any conclusions on what to do?

We are, but only because I'm waiting to see if he wants me to come pick him up in the FREEDOM mobile!

That's it, gives him a dose of American excess.

Gah.

So I've had to agree to giver her 20% of the equity. Not very impressed, but it would cost me that minimum to fight it in court. Still at least I should have a nice chunk of change left over.

I guess it's better than 50%. Do you reckon that the 30% covers most of the value you added since she left?

I've added *all* the value since she left. When she left, there was an outstanding mortgage of £155k and an estimated value of the flat of £145k. Yay buying right before the credit crunch!

Remind me not to tell Ben that when we sold our house it was close to the peak and had doubled in value. That's our little secret, remember, DON'T TELL BENNY!

Also don't tell him that our house has apparently appreciated in price by almost 30%, we only had the offer accepted in November last year... we did spend close to 40% of the 30% increase on STUFF (renovations etc), just hope property prices don't collapse again. SHHHH!!!!

(I feel like that silly lady in the SecretEscapes ad)